When kids leave home, dad's have an empty nest, too.

Remember, Dad Has an Empty Nest, too.


I recently received a comment from a woman who was worried about her brother’s adjustment to his empty nest. Wow! Who’d have thought, huh? There are always comments about women and their challenges when the children fly the coop, but men? I don’t know why I never thought of it before, but Dad has an empty nest, too. Dad’s are…

Getting rid of life's clutter frees you to live the life you want.

Getting Rid of Life’s Clutter


I have a daughter whose motto is, “If it doesn’t fit in the back of my pickup, I have too much stuff.” I’ve always thought of her as my “air child,” living free and easy without anything to hold her down, and although we are pretty much personality-opposites, I admire her way of thinking. When I look at all the…

Midlife allows you to dream big.

Midlife Allows You to Dream Big


  Hold fast to dreams For if dreams die Life is a broken-winged bird That cannot fly. ~ Langston Hughes I’ve been reading a lot of articles lately about “redesigning” yourself at midlife. Why not do it? Our time, energy, and resource-requiring children have grown up, become productive adults, and flown the coop. We empty-nesters find ourselves wondering what to…

Play something for the love of the game.

The Love of the Game


  I love games – pretty much any game – especially if there is a winner and a loser. Whether it’s a card game, board game, or guessing game, the competition is everything. And, I’m sad-to-say (alright, I’m not really that sad about it…) it often makes me annoying to other players. Because in the end, it isn’t about the…

You can be your own cheerleader

Become Your Own Cheerleader and Get Rid of Self-Doubt


I’ve been teaching Language Arts to middle-schoolers for 20 years, but this year I’m trying something new. (You can read about my decision to change careers at 60 here.) I am now an Academic and Life Skills coach for at-risk kids. Sounds daunting, right? I have to admit, I’ve had some doubt about whether or not I’m up to the…

Changing your glass half-empty perspective.

Overcoming a Glass Half-Empty Perspective


Are you a glass half-full or half-empty person? I like to think I’m a half-full thinker, but the reality is I too often look at life as half-empty. When I’m tired, hungry, stressed or overwhelmed, all bets are off and I am only able to see life through a half-empty perspective. A half-empty perspective tends to skew your judgment until…

I've learned to like myself.

I’ve Given Myself Permission to Like Myself


Before our children went to sleep each night we would have them say, “I like myself” twenty times. At first they giggled and put us off, but eventually, they realized this requirement was not going away, and it became a nightly ritual. Somewhere along the line, we learned children need permission from their parents to like themselves – this would…

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

What Do We See When We Look in the Mirror?


Years ago, I was waiting for my grandma to get ready to go somewhere. As she put on her makeup, she said something like, “Old woman, I don’t know if makeup will make any difference on your wrinkly face.” I couldn’t believe she didn’t think she was beautiful because to me, she was. I saw her as a person –…