Compassion Changes Everything

 Wisdom is acting with compassion and compassion changes everything.

“Wisdom is knowing we are all One. Love is what it feels like and Compassion is what it acts like.” ~ Ethan Walker III

A few years ago I had a student who constantly disrupted class and seldom did his work. I felt anger and frustration towards him as a result – until I read something he wrote in response to a journaling question. I realized what that young man’s life was like away from school, and I felt compassion instead of frustration. I realized then, compassion changes everything.

Compassion Changes How You View People

When you think about it, we are often angry or frustrated by people because we judge them in some way. Would we think differently if we knew the co-worker who leaves early three days a week is helping a sick family member? Would we be kinder if we knew the woman taking our fast food order was working her second job of the day? Even though you might not know their stories, compassion allows you to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Compassion Changes How You Act Towards People

If you feel compassion for others, you’re less likely to react with anger or frustration. When that guy cuts you off in traffic, compassion responds with, “Wow, I hope he isn’t driving like that because something’s wrong.” When the woman in line is cranky and rude to you, compassion replies, “She must be having a really hard day. I hope it gets better.” Compassion allows you to respond to others with kindness instead of judgment.

Compassion Changes How You Experience Life

When you develop a habit of showing compassion, you begin to experience life in a new way. Instead of anger and frustration, you feel calmness and peace. You stop worrying about others’ faults and start seeing their strengths. You no longer feel the need to be judge, jury, and executioner. Whew! That’s a load off!

When you think about it, we are all in the same boat, trying to do the best we can with the challenges we face. That knowledge can help us show compassion towards one another, and you’ll notice something…compassion changes everything!

Think about a person who angers or frustrates you. This week try to be non-judgmental and show compassion towards him/her and see how it benefits you both!

  • Compassion is such a “mature” emotion and world view Melody – it takes a lot of us a lifetime to learn and I know I still struggle with it at times. It’s easy to be compassionate in straightforward situations, but when you’re dealing with needy or difficult people it’s a real test isn’t it?

    • Melody Smith

      I know what you mean Leanne. I find it much easier to be compassionate to complete strangers than close family members! That’s my real test…

  • Brook Mendez

    I struggle with compassion, particularly when I find “judgy” so fun. But I’ve had to alter some of my more aggressive “American” behaviours since moving to Canada. People in northern Alberta are not just easy going, non horn honking drivers. For example, when you here a child throw a tantrum in a store, you can hear others around say something like, “Oh, that kid’s not happy. I remember those days.” It’s kind of different than “Hey, shut that kid up.” It is making me a better person, or so I think.

    • Melody Smith

      It is. I know what you mean – judgy at someone else’s expense can be quite entertaining at times. I’m sad to say I’ve done it myself – but DANG! I always regret it later. Do I need more conscience to stop doing it or less conscience to not be bothered by it? Of course I’m only kidding . . .